We want to be a church that does sex well. Sex isn’t often talked about in church and when it is it’s often framed around what you can’t do, when you can’t do it and who you can’t do it with. We aspire to be a church that understands it and appreciates it, and for that to be true, it means talking about it, with maturity, wisdom, nuance, and grace. These conversations will be relevant to couples, singles, those divorced, widowed, younger, or older, pretty much anyone with a body.
Conversation #3: Sex is Powerful
The nature of attraction and desire
Thursday, April 23, 2026 | 6:30-8:30 pm
Cedar Hall
What are the elements of healthy sexuality? It’s easier to define unhealthy sexuality, but that doesn’t give us a vision or a target. In a broad sense, "sex" includes far more than just intercourse. It’s connected to aspects of our lives that we may not intuitively recognize as being related. Those elements are part of our life whether or not we ever choose to become sexually active. They begin well before intercourse and even extend beyond it. So what does it actually look like to grow and mature in those areas?
This session explores the biological and psychological forces of attraction and desire, normalizing the powerful urges driven by brain chemicals like dopamine and adrenaline. We will discuss how developing a stronger sense of self allows for true intimacy—letting oneself be fully known, whether you are single or married.
Previous Conversation
Frequently Asked Questions
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Need support?
If you’re experiencing distress or realize you need individual care beyond general resources or next steps, please email our team at healthysexuality@salemalliance.org. We will help you find the support that fits your needs, whether pastoral conversation or a referral to a trusted mental health or medical professional
For Men
MEN'S INTEGRITY GROUP
Safe, confidential group helping men who struggle with sexual integrity. Meets Tuesdays, 6:30–7:30 pm, Room 2, in Faith Annex. No registration needed. Come anytime.
For Women
We're not currently offering any groups for women. If you need support or have questions, contact Laura Scharer below.
Recommended Resources
Personal - "Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything" by Dr. Juli Slattery
Big Picture- "God, Sex, and Your Marriage" by Dr. Juli Slattery
Data - "The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended" by Sheila Wray Gregoire
Secular - "Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships" by David Schnarch, Ph.D.
Processing Betrayal - "Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal" by Dr. Sheri Keffer
Sexual Brokenness - "Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing" by Jay Stringer
Sexual Abuse - "Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation" by Dan Allender
Parenting - "How to Talk to your Kids About Sex" by Rodney and Traci Wright
Comprehensive Resources / Online Groups / Support Prof - Pure Desire Ministries
Next Steps
For women navigating the pain of betrayal: Have you experienced the pain of betrayal in your marriage or a close relationship? You don’t have to walk that road alone.
At Salem Alliance Church, we offer confidential Betrayal & Beyond support groups for women—safe, grace-filled spaces to process your story, find healing, and experience freedom in Christ alongside others who understand.
Groups start as the need arises. To learn more or express interest in a future group, please reach out to Jill O’Connor.
For men ready to address unwanted sexual behavior: Are you struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors or patterns that feel difficult to break? 1. You’re not alone. 2. There’s hope. We have support pathways available, and dozens here have walked them before you. These groups provide a confidential, grace-filled space to process struggles, resolve underlying roots, and build new connections and community. One pathway begins with a 14-week Soul Care Intensive with an emphasis on unwanted sexual behavior (late January) and is followed by a 10-month group working through 7 Pillars of Freedom. We also have an open group on Tuesdays from 6:30 to 7:30pm in Faith Annex (Room 2). To learn more or express interest in joining, please reach out to Josh Mann.
Questions?